“At the core of what I’ve always wanted to do is get folks to willingly have conversations about things that are challenging,” says sexuality educator, writer, model and podcaster Ericka Hart. “I love that I get to make a difference in peoples’ lives.”
Some of those topics Hart discusses on her pod (“Hoodrat to Headwrap: A Decolonized Podcast”) and her social media series (#iHartBlackHistory) include toxic masculinity, interracial dating and colorism. But most recently, you can find her sharing wisdom on the Netflix show “Principles of Pleasure” and holding identity-affirming workshops at the University of Richmond.
Diagnosed at the age of 28 with bilateral breast cancer, Hart is also a survivor. “That period in my life felt like one big reminder of the importance of rest,” says Hart, who has proudly displayed the scars from her double mastectomy in her modeling work, increasing the awareness and visibility of breast cancer in Black, brown and LGBTQIA+ communities. “I don’t need to be going through anything in particular to deserve rest. I don’t need to be coming from chemotherapy to deserve relaxation.”
To learn more about how Hart’s beauty and wellness rituals, from her go-to skincare regimen to bedtime routines, read more below.
How did growing up between Maryland and Puerto Rico impact your approach to beauty?
I would say there was a lot of pressure for me to conform. When I became a young teen, there was this assumption that I should be more feminine. When I was little though, I would dress however I wanted. I had freedom and no one would make a big deal out of it. When I moved to Puerto Rico after my mom’s passing [from breast cancer], there were a lot of societal pressures in terms of how I was ‘supposed’ to present. My dad would always remind me of how other young girls were dressing, with dresses and lipstick and heels. But I honestly didn’t feel the urge to wear heels until I was about 18. In Maryland I felt freedom, which felt tied to my mother. In Puerto Rico, I felt a bit constrained as a teenager. I was also just a young person grieving and trying to figure that out as well.
What’s something that you once considered a flaw that you now appreciate and love about yourself?
The first thing that comes to mind is hair. Hair can be such a journey for Black people. The main messaging I received growing up in society and school was that my hair was bad. But that was wrong. When I was younger I would get braids all the time, but they weren’t popular at all. It just felt like something you had to do in the summer so you didn't end up frustrating your parents. But I remember being so excited to have braids because my hair would move more like a white person’s. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve had to sit with myself and address where those ideas, and all that pain, came from.
Who would you say had the biggest beauty influence on you growing up?
I would definitely say my grandmother and my great grandma. Also all of my mom’s friends. They’re all fly. And, if I’m being honest, the mean girls in high school were a source of beauty inspo, even though I wouldn't want to admit that when I was younger.
Who’s inspiring you beauty-wise now?
Some of my really good friends, like Yaminah Mayo. I love her style and even the way she shoots her photos is always very cool. There aren’t many famous people that inspire me… I really like to look to my friends for inspiration.
What self-care practices do you swear by?
I’ve started a bedtime routine. When we’re kids, they teach us to say a prayer, have a midnight snack, take vitamins, etc. and that structure was really important. It’s also important in adulthood. I started recently turning on my humidifier, filling up my diffuser and putting some essential oils in there. I do a face mask, some stretching, wash my face, have some water with magnesium and put my legs up on the wall to let the blood flow and relax my body and then go to sleep. This has been my routine for the past month and now, at 10PM, my body is ready to go to bed. Even my dog has started looking at me around that time and is like, ‘it’s time to sleep.’
What’s your skincare routine like?
I love using a gentle face wash and moisturizer. I also love a clarifying mask and nourishing face oils.
What about hair?
When I have braids, I love using Sunday II Sunday. They have a nice apple cider vinegar spray and also an edge serum. Those keep me from scratching my scalp and help me to keep my braids in much longer. When my hair is natural, I love all TGIN products!
Would you consider yourself a fragrance person? If so, what are you loving right now?
I love everything by Diptyque and Byredo. I also love Aesop’s rose spray.
What are you doing to keep stress down?
I’ve been meditating a lot with the Liberate app. It’s been a daily practice for me.
What would you say is the biggest beauty risk you’ve ever taken?
The first time I bleached my hair blond. I was blond for about seven years after that. I loved it so much until it started to ruin my hair.
Is there anything beauty-wise that you haven’t tried that you’re curious about?
It feels like everyone is trying Botox. I don’t know if I honestly want to try it. But I definitely feel left out. Aside from that, in all honesty, I don’t feel like I’m exposed to many beauty things. I think it goes back to accessibility. The beauty world can be expensive. Only certain people have access to it. Because of that, I feel like my desires for what to try beauty-wise are not very adventurous.
What’s one of the biggest confidence lessons you’ve learned thus far?
My mother taught me the power of finding comfort in the skin and body you’re in, even if it looks different. My mother had a nipplectomy due to breast cancer when I was younger and after she had the surgery, she came home and was literally ballet dancing topless around the room. It felt like it was her way of saying, ‘I’m just happy to be here.’ It really helped me to be grateful for my existence. I learned that you might not like everything about yourself, but hey, your lungs are pumping breath through your body and that’s beautiful in itself.
What other changes in the beauty industry would you like to see happen?
I would love to see more conversations about colorism and how that’s so embedded in the beauty industry as well. I would love for dark-skinned, fat, kinky-haired people to be able to just exist like everyone else and not have to go above and beyond to be accepted.
How do you define beauty?
I define beauty as calmness, groundedness and ease. I feel like when a person embodies those qualities, they come off as very beautiful.
When do you feel most beautiful?
Probably on Sunday mornings when I’m listening to gospel music and have a face mask on and cleaning at the same time. I feel beautiful in those moments where I’m not consumed with what I’m wearing, where I’m at ease.
Sexuality educator and activist Ericka Hart’s personal approach to beauty is all about finding ways to stay calm and grounded, and inspiring others do the same. Here, she invites you to explore her bedtime routine tips and confidence-boosting playlist.
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